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Take Charge and Rule

We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.  ~Earl Nightingale

Have you ever thought of giving your power away to a cookie or bag of chips rather than keeping your resolve on your eating program?  When I think of it in terms of a food choice is stronger than myself, it bothers me tremendously.  Food choices are fleeting but you, your health and self-esteem are rock solid assets to protect.

Don’t allow any exterior situation or circumstance to rule you.  Take charge!  The next time a food choice is beconing you, choose you!

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, Certified Life Coach
Weight Loss Surgery Coach

Who’s In Charge Here?

“I read and walked for miles at night along the beach…searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me.”  ~Anna Quindlen

Your life isn’t happening “without” you. You are in the driver’s seat. Every day you are setting into motion a process that creates reactions. And within that process, you have the power within you to help you build the life you want to have. You are “creating” your life—every day.

You create the life you have through your intentions and the choices you make.

There is power in the choices you make on a daily basis. Look at the choices you’ve made over time and you will begin to understand how you have directed your life toward the path you’re on. Every choice you make defines, once more, who we are. Every choice gives us a chance to pave our own road further.

Want a different life? Begin with your intentions, and start to make different choices.

Ultimately, the consequences of each of your intentions, thoughts, actions and choices create the life that is yours.  You are in charge.

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, Certified Life Coach
Weight Loss Surgery Coach

Quote Revised for WLS Post-Ops

“The pessimist sees difficult in every opportunity. 
The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. ” ~Winston Churchill

Let’s use this quote for some empowering self-talk to say to yourself when faced with an emotional eating situation…..

The wls post-op considers unhealthy food choices available to them in an emotional eating situation.  
The successful wls post-op achieves success and stays in control of their food choices in every emotional eating situation.

Give it a try!

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, Certified Life Coach, Weight Loss Surgery Coach

 

Never Give Up

Recently a friend of mine was going through a difficult time in her life.  As she shared with me the circumstances and feelings of discouragement she was feeling, all of a sudden she quoted Winston Churchill.  As Churchill stated, “Never, never, never, never give up!”  Talk about making a u-turn!  I was so inspired by the challenges she was experiencing in her life yet she had that inner light of hope and strength by telling me she would never, never, never, never give up!  

Strengthen your muscle of never giving up.  A slip up in your diet doesn’t mean you’re a failure or you should give up.  You pick yourself up, be stronger from the experience, and move forward with commitment and dedication.  Tomorrow has passed but you are responsible for the choices you make right here, right now.  Know your priorities to lose weight, make the hard choices.  Say a rosounding “YES” to what you want and say “no”, or “later, maybe” to things of lesser importance.   Say “YES” to create the life that you truly want.  You and your weight loss goals in your life are worth much more than the temporary fix of food.

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy

Write Your Own Script

It is difficult to express your needs clearly and honestly?  If so, write out a script as far as what you’ll say and how best to say it.  You can even practice it on someone close to you or rehearse yourself. 

One of my clients was concerned about speaking with her boss.  With her permission, I share the steps that successfully allowed her to speak for herself and express what she needed.

1.  Affirm the value of your relationship.  “I enjoy my job and enjoy you as my supervisor.”

2.  Tell the truth of your needs and feelings using the word “I.”  “I’ve taken on many additional responsibilities during the past few months.  I need to discuss the re-evaluation of my job duties along with my current salary.”

3.  Directly ask for what you need and want.  “I want to continue with my current job and duties I’ve taken on, and receive a raise to reflect the additional responsibilities assigned to me.”

4.  Ask for an agreement.  “Can you meet now or would you like to schedule a meeting for the next couple of days?”

When we’ve been overweight for a period of time, we’ve learned not to ask for what we want AND deserve.  Even if you don’t come to an agreement or don’t get what you want from the conversation, you’ll have additional information on the situation.  The new information will empower you to make the decision as to what you want to do.

It may feel uncomfortable at first.  Any new behavior will be awkward or uncomfortable.  It may seem as though it is a risk.  It is.  The reward of voicing what you want and need is worth it.  As you express your needs and wants, it will become more second nature and a regular part of what you do.  Don’t settle for anything less than expressing yourself.  Go for it!  You definitely deserve it!

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, Certified Life Coach, Weight Loss Surgery Coach

Dreams Into Goals Into Reality!

I am so happy and excited today.  I’ve had a dream for a long time.  It floated in and out, and around my head for quite awhile.  I usually dismissed it when my self-limiting beliefs geared up screaming in my head.  Thanks to a mentor and friend, I decided to take that dream and turn it into a goal.  I worked hard for this goal.  I spent many hours, financial resources, effort along with the support of my family and friends, that goal is now a reality. 

I coach my clients on setting goals and reaching them.  You can open the window to your own opportunities.  When opened, the sky’s the limit!  Today, I celebrate my happiness and joy in the process of Dreams=Goals=Reality!  Go for it!  You can do it!!

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy
Certified Life Coach, Weight Loss

Tiny Decisions…Good Choices…Your Success

As a rocket takes off into space, a tiny directional shift at the point of takeoff can mean a difference of hundreds of miles later in the flight.  Our small choices can have huge consequences.  Today, pay attention to the tiny decisions you make.  Congratulate yourself for the small and big choices you make for yourself, your weight loss and health!  Consistent good choices equals success!  Yeah YOU!!

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy

The Courage To Be Myself

Have the courage to be yourself.  Remember, you have the courage to:

* Embrace my strengths.
* Get excited about my life.
* Enjoy giving and receiving love.
* Face and transform my fears.
* Ask for help and support when I need it.
* Spring free of the Superwoman trap.
* Trust myself.
* Make my own decisions and choice.
* Be my own best friend.
* Complete unfinished business.
* Realize that I have emotional and practical rights.
* Talk as nicely to myself as I do to my pets and plants.
* Communicate lovingly with understanding as my goal.
* Honor my own needs.
* Give myself credit for my accomplishments.
* Love the child within me.
* Overcome my need for approval.
* Grant myself permission to play.
* Quit being a responsibility sponge.
* Feel all of my feelings and act on them appropriately.
* Nurture others becaue I want to, not because I have to.
* Choose what is right for me.
* Insist on being paid fairly for what I do.
* Set limits and boundaries, and stick to them.
* Say “yes” only when I really mean it.
* Have realistic expectations of myself.
* Take risks and accept change.
* Grow through challenges.
* Be totally honest with myself.
* Correct erroneous beliefs and assumptions.
* Respect my vulnerabilities.
* Heal old and current wounds.
* Wave good-bye to guilt.
* Plant “flower” not “weed” thoughts in my mind.
* Treat myself with respect and teach others to do the same.
* Fill my own cup first, then nourish others from the overflow.
* Own and honor my excellence.
* Plan for the future, but live in the present.
* Value my intuition and wisdom.
* Know that I am loveable.
* Develop healthy, supportive relationships.
* Accept myself just as I am right now, this very minute.

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy

You Are In Charge of YOU!

If you are where you want to be in your life, good for you!  Keep going!  However, if you want something different or more for your life, go for it.  Remember that YOU are in charge.  You do not “have to” repeat yesterday’s habits.  Make new choices today.  Take charge.  You are the COO (Chief Operating Officer) of your life.  Make small, repeated changes in your thoughts, your habits, your actions, and ultimately, your destiny.  You can do it! 

In talking with clients and members, I hear people tell me they “have to” go to work, run errands, answer the phone, or do some other task.  What they usually mean is that some responsibility they’ve agreed to fulfill “must” be taken care of.  I understand that. I have those myself.  There are things we choose to do to avoid consequences and have certain things in our lives.  Paying taxes, washing clothes, grocery shopping, are all choices and compromises we make in our lives.  We agree to certain things.  We have responsibilities.  We’ve learned that to get ahead in our lives there are things that are best to do.  In the daily routine of life, there’s nothing wrong with that.  Think of them as choices and not be the victim of “have to’s” driving your life. 

In the core of who you are and how you live your life, your choices DO matter.  In fact, your choices make all the difference in the world.   Be true to yourself always.

Your life belongs to you, and what you do with it is your greatest responsibility.  I have a daily reminder that is in my journaling software program that pops up when I turn on my computer.  It says “Today, I am in charge.  I choose my thoughts.  I choose my attitudes.  I choose my actions.  I choose myself and to live my best life.”

Life is like steering a luxury cruise ship.  Sudden changes can throw you and the ship off balance.  Thankfully, life rarely requires big changes or u-turns.  Small, safe, easy changes result in success.  Just repeat daily, as needed. 

Your life belongs to you.  Only you can decide how you will life it.  Your life is a “do it yourself, work in progress” type of project.  Make sure you create and choose the life you truly want.  Live your life purpose from the inside out.

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy

Your Zone…Step Out Of It

What’s the size of your comfort zone?  Your comfort zone is the place that you hang out within yourself.  Your behavior, attitudes, risk-factor and thoughts are in your comfort zone.  The more you spend outside of your comfort zone, the more comfortable and familiar it feels.  Plan on feeling uncomfortable temporarily.  Turn your comfort zone up a notch or two.  Before long, your comfort zone has expanded, and your possibilities for change have grown along with it.

To move forward in your life, you must be willing to be persistent and go beyond what is familiar and comfortable.  It can feel frightening and possibly overwhelming at first, but it pays to persist.  Watch toddlers learn to walk.  At first, it is new and uncomfortable with lots of tip-overs and falls.  With persistence, they walk and proceed to run.  The same applies to us.  Why crawl when you can walk and run just by expanding your comfort zone?  What was once new and intimidating can become positive exhilarating.  You’ll wonder why you ever hesitated.

On a regular basis, take a step out of your comfortable and familiar zone of comfort.  What you discover and achieve will astound you.  Go for it!!  

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy