Can’t, Try, Will
To say “I can’t do it” will never accomplish anything. “I will try” can result in accomplishments. “I will do” shows commitment, dedication, and raises the probability of success substantially. By putting it out there that you WILL do something, you raise your level of commitment and it gives you a boost of confidence to do exact what you say you WILL do.
By having the attitude that you can’t do something is living as a victim. Approaching a situation or challenge as you will try or, even better, that you will do something is living confidently in your capabilities and abilities. When faced with a challenge or reaching a goal, don’t be wishy-washy. Have confidence in yourself and your capabilities to accomplish what you say you WILL do.
For me, when I hear someone is going to try, I think it is a bit wimpy. If you are going to “try” than you can think in terms that you “will.” Try is too large. To try leaves you open for success or a half-hearted attempt. It really isn’t a commitment one way or the other. It leaves you an opening to not come through and say that you tried. Flip a quarter as to the results is the equivalent of merely trying. Go for it and say “I WILL” and you will.
The next time you hear yourself saying that you can’t do something, say “NO” or “STOP”. Change those internal messages to promise yourself you will try or even better than that you will do it. If you think you can, tell yourself you can and know you can – YOU WILL!
This relates to weight loss easily. Say these out loud and check in with yourself as to how you feel:
* I can’t lose weight, I’ve tried everything.
* I’m going to try to lose weight.
* I will lose my weight and I know I can.
Those three statements take you from practically throwing in the towel, waving the white flag by telling yourself that you can’t lose weight. The second on of going to try to lose weight leaves it open to 50/50. You might and you might not. No commitment or dedication to doing it. Now, lastly, I will lose weight and know that I can is a strong, confident statement. It states a high level of commitment and confidence in your success.
Remember the Little Train That Could? As he climbed the mountain, he told himself repeatedly, “I think I can, I think I can….” As he reached the top and traveled back down, he joyfully told himself “I knew I could, I knew I could….!!”
You Can Too….You will Do!
Believe In Yourself,
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