Happy Mom’s Day
Happy Mom’s Day weekend! Whether you are a mom, grandma, aunt, cousin, sister or whatever capacity you are….Happy Mom’s Day. You could be that person to a baby, grown adult “child” or a baby that walks on all fours and is furry to an aquarium of fish. You could even be a male that fulfills the role of a mom too. You could also be the mom to yourself that you wish you’d always had. A mom isn’t limited to genetics and giving birth. The title of mom is awarded to someone that is nurturing, caring, loving and giving to another or to yourself.
This is a joyous weekend for me because we celebrate Mom’s day all weekend long. Yep, I milk it for as long as I can!! Hey, I figure I’ve got two sons so why not celebrate for two days?!
It is also a celebration for me personally. I wanted to be a mom for a long time but was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to have children. My weight was so out of control that I was told not to get pregnant until my co-morbidities due to my excess weight. I saw a perinatologist and the rest is history – I have two wonderful sons and finally fulfilled my dream of being a mom. My oldest son is 13 year old (ugh, a teenager) and the time has flown by. I relive so many happy times and memories. We laugh at the things both of my sons have done throughout the years. That is what Mom’s Day is to me.
It is also a little bit of a sad time too. I don’t have the mother that I wish I had and needed. I wish our relationship was different. I’ve spent many years wishing for things to be different with my family of origin. I wish we shared close relationships and shared in each other’s lives. Recently through my own insights, I know that it will never be what I’d hoped and needed. To this day, I wish it were different but I’ve come to accept that it takes more than me wishing and longing to make it so. It is what it is.
I am a good mom so who better to get those feelings of nurturing, loveand care than from myself. Because of the mother that I had, I have become the mom that I am to my own sons. I’ve made it a priority to give to them what I never had but desparately wanted. I treat them as their own unique individual and give to them what they need to interpret love. For one of my sons, it is talking with him and listening to what is going on with him and give my input when he asks; for my other son is it watching him play soccer and do soccer drills. It is honoring and respecting each of them with their own separate needs. I feel, as a mom, I’ve made lemonade from the lemons of my own experiences.
Family can be people that you share the same DNA or it can be with people that you choose to have near and dear to your heart. If those people are the same, then great. If you’ve made a family of your choosing of people that you don’t have the same DNA, it is still a family. Separate from your own family of origin, you can create your own family with a partner and/or children (human or animal). What makes a family are the feelings, care, nuturing and love that you share.
I am excited for this weekend. I get to spend it with my husband and sons dedicated to having fun and being together. I don’t know what they have planned but it really doesn’t matter. Having the family that I always wanted as a child and now have as an adult is the best gift of all…..every day.
I celebrate being a mom to my sons and myself every day. Happy Mom’s Day to you too!
Believe In Yourself,
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