Your Sensitive Self
I grew up with a family that was not into emotions or pursuing situations through talking. I’m not wired like that at all. I was told many times that I was “too sensitive” and ignore it (it = emotions, feelings, situations anything upsetting). All of us know when you ignore something inside you, it usually gets stuffed. I stuffed quite a bit to get to morbid obesity.
As a result, I cannot stand anyone saying another person is too sensitive. For many years I tried to suppress my need for personal discovery, self-reflection and processing my emotions in a healthy way. I believed that being sensitive was a negative thing, a defect in me. I sure don’t now. My sensitivity is an asset. I’ve come to not only accept it but embrace and appreciate it.
Your sensitivity is among your greatest attributes. Protect it! One of the things I’m going to focus on this year is getting and staying back on track. Process emotions without numbing and calming through food. Life my life consciously rather than on auto-pilot. Respecting my sensitivity has opened up a huge acceptance of myself. My sensitivity allows me to feel deeply, have a great intuition and instincts, go inside myself and truly process what is going on for me.
All of us have different levels of sensitivity. It is the essence of ourselves that allows us to be moved internally, obtain motivation and inspiration, connect with others in a meaningful way. It also allows us with an internal red flag that makes us aware when we are in situations that may be harmful to us emotionally, physically or spiritually. It allows us to process those situations without the need for food. After all, the answers are in us and not in a bag of chips or cookies.
Pay attention to your internal life. Check in with yourself when you feel the need to emotionally eat and see what you’re feeling and what is going on. For the times that you feel good and happy, pay even closer attention to those. As you practice not listening to the head hunger you will become more fulfilled by your heart hunger and fill yourself with those things that make you happy and feel good.
As you become in tune with what you need, you will probably have to educate others in your life. If a friend is harsh or seems to ignore an important need that you have, discuss it with your friend. Provide feedback as to what you do need. You may be accused of being “high maintenance” or “too sensitive” but you are not. You are taking care of yourself and what you need. When you identify for yourself and voice it to others, you are developing a healthy self-esteem and not merely settling for less than you want and need.
Take care of yourself and listen to what is going on inside of you. Feed your heart hunger in a healthy, nurturing way and the head hunger goes away or is suppressed to a mere whisper.
Believe In Yourself,
Certified Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery Coach
Certified Back On Track Facilitator