Put Your Abuser In Jail

As we make changes in our life to lose weight, it is important to look at how we treat ourselves.  Would you stay in a relationship or friendship that is abusive?  Would you tolerate being around someone in your life that berates and belittles you?  I encourage you to apply the same standards to how you treat yourself.  Do you treat yourself lovingly and with care?  What is your self-talk….encouraging or demeaning? 

No one should tolerate an abusive relationship – especially the one that we have with ourselves.  After all, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.  I saw the following story and want to share with you…..

One morning last week I woke up and realized that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship.  No, it isn’t my significant other who gives me unconditional love and praise.  It isn’t one of my children either.  It’s the other person in my house.

My abuser gives me no credit for marking 10 things off my to do list but instead dwells on the one thing I haven’t finished.  She focuses on the few extra pounds on my thighs instead of my wonderful smile.  She gives me no credit for being the first person in my family to graduate from college but berates me for not being as smart as the doctors and lawyers in my neighborhood.  My abuser doesn’t notice that the house is relatively clean, the laundry is done, but finds spots on the floor that needs mopping.  It isn’t enough that she bullies me during the day but she even routinely wakes me out of a deep sleep to let me know that I’m not good enough.  I wake up with dark circles under my eyes and no energy. 

Would I put up with this behavior from my husband?  Of course not!  My friends?  They wouldn’t be my friends any longer!  My kids?  They’d be sent to time out immediately!  Yet, when my abuser talks to me I listen to every word she says as though it is absolutely true.  I lower my head and feel worse about myself.  I’ve been living with this person all my life and yet it’s taken me almost my entire life to realize what an emotional bully she really is.  Well….no more!

I’m putting her where all abusers should be – in jail.  In fact, I’m putting her into solitary confinement and throwing away the key.  I’m living with someone who loves me for me, and gives me nothing but positive thoughts.  This new person treats me the way that I treat others that I love. 

Put your abuser in jail too.  

Believe In Yourself,
Cathy