What is Self-Esteem?
What comes to your mind when you hear “self-esteem”? What exactly is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is the reputation that you have with yourself. What do YOU think about yourself? Not with the external trappings and behaviors you’ve adopted that you believe make you likeable. Self-esteem isn’t what family, friends, or acquaintainces think of you. It is what YOU think of the person that you are – complete and whole.
Self-esteem involves many components including emotional and behavioral. It is the confidence in yourself to successfully cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness. It is having confidence in our capacity to learn, and to make appropriate choices and decisions in relation to our inner core values. It is knowing what you value and living from those values. Self-esteem develops when we respond appropriately to changes in our life. It is also the inner knowledge that success, achievement, accomplishment, fulfillment, and happiness are ours to possess.
Self-esteem is not the euphoria of extreme moods or behaviors. It is not temporarily induced by food, drugs, alcohol, external situations, circumstances or comments from others. Self-esteem is a rock-solid, grounded feeling and belief in yourself. It is not an illusion or something that wanes by blowing in the wind with external circumstances. Self-esteem is not dependent on another person. Lots of things and people can make us feel good for awhile. True self-esteem is grounded in reality and built over time. Self-esteem is maintained through accountability to yourself, acting responsibly, and with integrity.
Self-esteem is characterized as what you do when no one else is looking. Do you take shortcuts, take the easy way out of an uncomfortable situation, or behave differently than you would if your spouse, children, or other important person in your life were watching you? Self-esteem is keeping your promises both to others and especially those made to yourself. Self-esteem encompasses healthy self-confidence, self-worth, self-respect, and self-love.
One of the elements to weight loss life coaching is about your self-esteem. A healthy self-esteem is the key to weight loss, weight maintenance, and living the way you are meant to live. It is being the best you can be.
Believe In Yourself,
Cathy
